About 6 months ago, I turned 25 years old #ProudSagittarian. One of the things that have been ringing in my ear before I turned 25 was people telling me to prepare for a quarter life crisis. For those of you who are not familiar with the term quarter life crisis, it is a term when you start to question some certain aspects of your life, starting in your 25. “People say” that when you enter your 25, you will start questioning your life; from career and achievements, to love and social life.
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I, personally, don’t believe in the term “quarter life crisis”. I don’t believe in them because I think that the term is such a fast and furious against one another.
You start questioning your life because you have a certain benchmark, meaning that you compare yourself to others; and that, is not cool.
This doesn’t mean I didn’t deal with issues like career and stuff. Trust me, I did. But the only battle I have is with myself. I set my own goals that alters my capabilities and its own perfect timing.
I want to share my own tips and tricks to tackle quarter life crisis. It’s time, mavens! When people ask you on quarter life crisis, answer them “what crisis? Crepes you mean?” – Here’s how!
1. Do NOT compare your timing with others
This is important. The root of why you are having a quarter life crisis is because you compare yourself with anyone else’s. By comparing, it creates an obligation to achieve certain standard at a specific time whilst life works differently for everyone. Work hard and trust your own timing!
2. Know what you love, mind map from there
One of the things why people are experiencing quarter life crisis is because they are confused on the things that they want to do. Find something that you love, and start mind mapping on how to earn money from it. It’s not easy but it’s definitely worth it.
3. Filter external advice
There are a lot of comments that will make you question your life. In Indonesia, people will start asking on when will you get married? People tend to ask these things so many times. All you can do is to filter them out and know thing that are in your priorities right now. By people asking and telling that you should married soon, doesn’t mean that you have to do it. Is that what you want right now? If not, then don’t do it.
4. People have done it? And..?
Being creative is a lot of process. One of the barriers of why you dint start doing what you want to do is because people have done it. But…that doesn’t mean you can do it either. Search for different angles and strategies. It’s what you like so it’s not as hard as something that is forced. Don’t make this as an excuse to give up something that you want to do.
5. It’s never too late to start over
If you took a wrong move and you find the thing that you love in the midst of your journey, please remember that it’s never too late to start over. It’s better to start over rather than a lifetime regret.
I hope this helps a little to those who are currently dealing with the crisis. Let me know your thoughts on this and maybe you can share to our readers on the things that you do to overcome this.
p.s. life is not elusive, you just need to know the how tos!
Yoga x
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